Find your why I’ve heard for years. 

Why do you want _______? 

Why do you do what you do? __________________ 

Why does it matter _____________?  

Why, why, why.

I understood the impact and potential need for asking why, yet the discussion often left me unsettled. I felt like I was justifying myself and my dreams. It could just be me but I have since talked to others and found I’m not alone.

While it is so important to identify why you are doing what you are doing for potential clients, I found a tool that distilled down to my truest desires with excitement.

Find your WHAT!

What is your desire?__________.

What is your intention? ________________.

It’s about distilling down deep within you. Many say follow your passion. But what if you have hundreds of passions, as many do.

When I changed my Why to my “What” I began to gain clarity. Once I began to gain clarity the “How” presented itself. As the What and the How fell into place I began to understand why my entire thought process needed to change.

I started with trying to find my Why but found it difficult to be clear. I had resistance every time someone asked me “Why do you do what you do?” My feelings were reminiscent of childhood or an accusatory feeling. Why did you do that!!??? Why would you feel that way??!!  I felt as though I was always justifying my existence, my worthiness, and my ability. 

Today I seek my What rather than my Why.

What do I want  ________? 

What do I want to feel _________?

What do I want to be known for __________________?

What, sparks curiosity and wonder.

What is not a new concept. In art school, we were challenged always to push ourselves through the design and creation process by asking ourselves,

 “What if you do this?”

 “What if you do that?” 

This process opens you up and lets you imagine, create and design what feels right to you.

It helps you to be brave and look at all things in new ways. To learn about yourself and the world in which you want to create. Creating can be messy and for me, I hate messes.

For the last ten years, I’ve been working through the challenges of What vs Why, and it got messy. Every what, I had to live, learn and experience; some the hard way. 

Life can be hard but it can also be easy. Our mindset dictates a perspective, hard life or an easy life, nothing ever stays the same. We are guaranteed only change.

So “What do I want?” 

I want…

  • to help others, I had to help myself.

  • to be healthy, I had to heal

  • to find happiness in every day, I had to be mindful every day

  • to inspire people, I had to inspire myself

To teach you must learn. To learn requires you to be open, honest and willing to challenge the status quo. To find joy in the journey; rather than the destination; thus to “find happiness in the every day.” 

What do I want? To inspire and be inspired by everyday living. We all have the same 24 hours, no matter what we are doing, where we are in our life there is always something to be grateful for. A mindset of appreciation and gratitude is where I started to get what I wanted. 

Something to try: Every 24 hours:

Upon waking, seek to feel gratitude for the day before you. Meditate/pray. Write and carry any word, quote, or picture that creates a positive emotion. Carry this with you throughout the day. Look at it. Feel it.

Upon going to sleep: seek to feel appreciation for all that you have experienced. Know that you have done the best you can for this 24 hours. Meditate/pray as you fall asleep.

Each day is a new beginning with a beautiful natural show each sunrise and sunset. Follow nature’s ques and you can’t go wrong.


Join me each Sunday morning, as I share my experience with finding “Happiness in the Everyday.”  The power of our belief is in our hands and creates the internal and external worlds we live in.

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